Pastor Sherry’s message for December 29, 2024

Scriptures: 1 Sam 2:18-26; Ps 148; Col 3:12-17; Lk 2:41-52

I just went with my family to see the biopic movie on Bob Dylan, “A Complete Unknown.”  It was an excellent walk down memory lane as I realized how much his music and songwriting had impacted my life.  But his personal story was sad.  He felt so compelled to write music that his relationships suffered—he appeared to use people rather than to value them.  He also seemed to either suffer from OCD or to be somewhere on the Autism Spectrum.  And it was fairly clear that he had rejected God.  He is still alive, at 83.

How many of you have seen the movie, ”The Blind Side”?  This movie has been out a while and is also excellent (I liked it so much, I read the book).  But, unlike Dylan’s bio, it is a story of redemption!  A wealthy white woman, Leigh Anne Tuohy–a Christian, living in Memphis–takes in a poor, homeless, and very large African-American youth, Michael Oher.  Michael doesn’t really know his daddy.  His mother, with 9-10 neglected children, is on crack and in and out of jail.  So Michael had been sleeping on couches here and there, and overnighting in Laundromats and gymnasiums, before Leigh Anne invited him to live with her family.  The movie chronicles the Tuohys’ and Michael’s adjustments to each other, and how Michael is helped to catch up socially, academically, and athletically.  With the Tuohy’s help, Michael is able to graduate from a Christian High School, and become a superb offensive tackle who is highly recruited.  He goes on attend Ole Miss on a football scholarship, and in 2009, was a first round NFL draft pick for the Baltimore Ravens.

What I liked most about Michael Oher’s story is that it demonstates that the right kind of love can overcome allot of deficits, allot of obstacles.  Bob Dylan could have used this kind of love.  Though enormously talented, his life seems sad and lonely by comparison to that of Michael Oher.

I wish that were the end of the story.  Some time ago, however, I learned that Michael Oher had taken the Tuoeys to court.  They had claimed to have adopted him, but he later discovered they had not—they had instead made themselves trustees of the money he made.  What a disappointment!  It leads us to ask, “So does anyone love well?

I had to give this a lot of thought.  I believe two people who are great examples of folks who truly do love well are the characters in O Henry’s story, The gift of the Magi. Della and Jim are a poor, young married couple with no money for a Christmas gift for the other.  Jim has a gold watch handed down to him from his grandfather and his father.  Della has gorgeous long hair, down to her knees.  Jim sells his beloved watch to buy Della two jeweled hair combs, while Della sells her hair to buy Jim a gold chain for his watch.  They each gave away their most precious asset in order to fund a special gift for the other.  This, then, is a legitimate example of two people who love well.

Our God is a God of love; He has told us to love Him above all things and to love one another as well as we love ourselves. Fortunately, He hasn’t left us clueless about how to do this.  Let’s look at what our Scriptures have to say about how to love effectively, how to love well:

A. Psalm 148 tells us to love God above all things; all of heaven and all the earth’s creation is joined in loving praise of Him.  This is where it starts!  If we get the vertical relationship right [us to God], we know we are loved.  If we get the vertical relationship right, we can let go of trying to make others meet our needs for love.  If we get the vertical relationship right, God empowers us to love generously, to love extravagantly, while holding on to others loosely.  So, it all begins with loving God, praising Him, worshipping Him—like we are doing this morning.

B.  Our Old Testament lesson is from 1 Samue; 2:18-26.  IT tells the story of Hannah and her child, Samuel.  Hannah had been childless until she begged the Lord for a son, promising to place him in God’s service if God answered her prayer.  God does and the previously barren Hannah conceives Samuel [his name means, I asked the Lord for Him].  She keeps her promise and brings Samuel, when he is 3 years old (the age at which Hebrew children were weaned], to serve the Lord at Shiloh, where he will be mentored and trained by the Chief Priest, Eli.

Now this was indeed a risk as Eli had done a very poor job of raising his two sons, Hophni and Phineas.  As Samuel  was growing up, under Eli’s care, the word got around that Eli’s boys were hellions, evil and corrupt.  They helped themselves to the offerings at the altar, even before the Lord was given His portion—thus stealing from God.  YIKES!  They engaged in sexual liaisons with women who came to worship, fornicating in the Temple.  Double YIKES!  We don’t know why they were so bad—some scholars believe Eli may have been too indulgent with them.  By the time of our story today, God was fed up with them and had issued them the death penalty for their rotten behavior.

So Hannah has placed her beloved son among unsavory influences.  But she was a woman of prayer, so we can assume she prayed and prayed mightily for his safety, his intellectual growth, and his moral development.  Furthermore, she visited him when she could, bringing gifts, reminders that he was loved and remembered.  She gracefully models that she loves him enough not to thwart his destiny.  She wanted him to become who God meant him to be:  [1] The first prophet of Israel since Moses; [2] The best of the judges of Israel; [3] And the one who God sends to anoint Saul and David as kings over Israel.

Can we, like Hannah, love enough to take time to pray for our children and grandchildren🡪 asking God to provide for their safety and their physical, intellectual, and moral development?  Rather than determining we want a lawyer or a doctor, we need to look for where God has gifted our children and encourage them to live into their gifting—regardless of our preferences. It may be difficult and inconvenient to commit ourselves to this kind of love, but, as Samuel’s life indicates, it is certainly very effective.   

C.  Our New Testament lesson is drawn from  Colossians 3:12-17.  The Apostle Paul has come to the practical application of what it means to live out a Christian life:  it is to clothe ourselves with Christ, or to imitate Christ.  Eugene Peterson says it this way in his modern paraphrase of Scripture, The Message (p.2148)🡪…dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, [gentleness, patience, self-discipline], …and, regardless of what else you put on, wear love.  It’s your basic, all-purpose garment.  Never be without it!  To this list, Paul adds, be a person who forgives; take hold of God’s peace; demonstrate your appreciation to God for what you have; spend time in God’s Word, so that the wisdom/truth of Scripture is available to you; and encourage others.

I believe the O Henry characters, Jim and Della, live out these characteristics, but I didn’t see evidence of this in Bob Dylan.  It is possible to teach these values and attributes to our children and our grandchildren.  With the help of the Holy Spirit, it is even possible to live them out in our own lives.  Our lives are the best testimony to our children and grandchildren that we can give them.  Sometimes we are grouchy or tired or sick, and so we may not act very Christ-like; but, fortunately, kids who know they are loved tend to be forgiving and to look at the whole rather than a few poor exceptions.

D. Finally, our Gospel Lesson (Luke 2:41-52) recounts the only story we have from Jesus’ youth.  It demonstrates how home, synagogue, and Temple helped form Him.  Obviously Joseph and Mary have brought Him up in the faith.  They attend the Passover in Jerusalem annually.  The Law required believers to attend 3 feasts in Jerusalem each year; however, those who lived far way—Nazareth was 3 days’ journey from Jerusalem—only had to attend one, the Passover.  Men were required to go, but women were not, so the fact that Mary was there, too, is an indication of her own devotion to God.  Surely they had taken Him to Synagogue, taught Him Scripture, gave thanks at the table, and prayed with Him.  The year from age 12-13 was a year of preparation for Jewish boys.  At 13YO, they were declared men and were held accountable for their actions.

So the nearly adult Jesus is in the Temple, listening to and questioning the religious scholars of the day.  He is involved in learning more about God, and likely what the religious scholars were teaching about His Father.  His response was intended to remind Mary and Joseph that He was deep into preparation for His mission (saving humankind)–discussing theology and questioning men of God about His Father.  His response to their worry is to leave the company of scholars and journey back with them to Nazareth.  He is obedient to His parents, but the 3 days spent at the Temple underscore His devotion to God’s call upon His life.  Sometimes our response to God’s call may cause inconvenience to or even worry for others.  There is a tension between choosing God and choosing family, choosing God and choosing friendships.  Prioritizing is difficult.  Jesus, only a young adolescent, demonstrates the right priority: God first, parents second, and we may assume others 3rd.

Our God has provided Scripture–the examples of Hannah, Mary, Joseph, the teachings of Paul, and the model of Jesus–to help us to live lives characterized by love.   As we approach 2025, Let us intend to love well.  As we approach 2025, let us resolve to love effectively.

©️2024 Rev. Dr. Sherry Adams